Assertiveness is about acting in an ‘adult’ manner, asserting your rights without aggression and without being submissive. Smooth Assertive body language is not jerky and tense. Nor is it held still under close control. It moves at a steady rate, indicating that the person is feeling relatively relaxed. Even when they are speaking passionately, the movement is still smoothContinue reading “Assertive Body Language”
Category Archives: Life Skills
Asking
Description When you want something, you can ask for it. When you want others to do something, you can ask them to do it. To ask assertively: Be brief, clear and specific. Ask for what you want without elaboration or floppy language. Whilst you can explain reason, you do not need to justify your right toContinue reading “Asking”
Acting With Aplomb
Description Be calm, composed and self-assured at all times, especially when things are going wrong. Do the right thing (using social values) as far as possible and do not fret if you cannot do more. Keep a stillness within and in you external manner. Sustain grace under pressure. When others are becoming anxious and losing theirContinue reading “Acting With Aplomb”
Building assertive beliefs
Assertive beliefs Much of what we do, say, feel and act is based on our beliefs, and in particular in our beliefs about people. Problems occur when we hold different beliefs about ourselves and about other people. If you have assertive beliefs, then assertive behavior will follow. If you do not hold assertive beliefs, then you willContinue reading “Building assertive beliefs”
Comparing Behaviors
Here is a summary of key differences between assertive behavior, aggressive behavior and submissive behavior. Note how the benefits and costs of aggressive and submissive behavior are sometimes the same and sometimes opposite. One the traps of aggressive/submissive behavior is to believe that this is all there is, and you have to be one or the other. Assertive behaviorContinue reading “Comparing Behaviors”
Submissive Behavior
Description submissive (or passive) behavior means shying away from saying what you really mean and not seeking to achieve your needs, particularly when someone else has conflicting needs. A submissive person is a shrinking violet, avoiding upsetting others either because they fear them or they fear to hurt their feelings. When things go wrong, the submissiveContinue reading “Submissive Behavior”
Aggressive Behavior
Description Aggressive behavior means standing up for your rights, but in a way that violates the rights of other people. It means saying what you believe in a way that assumes that it the only truth, and that any contradictory statement is wrong. Aggressive people often uses anger, aggressive body language other threatening behavior to bully, subjugate andContinue reading “Aggressive Behavior”
Assertive-EXPLAINED
Assertive behavior means standing up for your rights and expressing your truths in a way that neither shrinks from what you want to communicate nor assumes that they are the only valid truths.
Assertiveness
Assertive behavior is one of the most powerful ways of acting in interacting with other people. Understanding assertiveness Assertiveness is widely misunderstood, often equated with aggression, which is not. Here’s more detail to give you a firm foundation in this area. Assertiveness is: Submissive, assertive, and aggressive behavior. Aggressive Behavior: Being aggressive is not beingContinue reading “Assertiveness”
How to Stop Procrastinating: CBT for Procrastination
Most people procrastinate from time to time. However, some people procrastinate excessively, causing undue anxiety, reduced motivation and even depression. Procrastination can be especially problematic when putting off important tasks, such as paying the bills, or applying for jobs. There are a number of causes of excessive procrastination. For example, some people have skills deficits in planning.Continue reading “How to Stop Procrastinating: CBT for Procrastination”
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