Most people are troubled internally and miserable outside because of these two emotions; Guilt and Condemnation. What is guilt? According to me, guilt is an internal signal that there is a mark you have missed in a particular aspect in your life. It could be relationship, career, business etc. Its self correcting system message thatContinue reading “GUILT AND CONDEMNATION -How do deal with these EMOTIONS”
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7 Things Mentally Healthy People Tell Themselves
7 Things Mentally Healthy People Tell Themselves “I am a lovable.” No child is born who is not lovable. Look at any newborn. That button nose and those tiny fingers and toes are meant to engage adult’s protective and loving feelings. You were no different. The adults around you when you were small may have beenContinue reading “7 Things Mentally Healthy People Tell Themselves”
She is growing up with Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).
When you are raised by parents who lack emotional awareness and skills, you struggle for good reasons…
Challenging Our Cognitive Distortions and Creating Positive Outlooks
This article explores several common cognitive distortions and presents challenges to encourage ways to create a more positive outlook and lifestyle.
Assertive Body Language
Assertiveness is about acting in an ‘adult’ manner, asserting your rights without aggression and without being submissive. Smooth Assertive body language is not jerky and tense. Nor is it held still under close control. It moves at a steady rate, indicating that the person is feeling relatively relaxed. Even when they are speaking passionately, the movement is still smoothContinue reading “Assertive Body Language”
Asking
Description When you want something, you can ask for it. When you want others to do something, you can ask them to do it. To ask assertively: Be brief, clear and specific. Ask for what you want without elaboration or floppy language. Whilst you can explain reason, you do not need to justify your right toContinue reading “Asking”
Building assertive beliefs
Assertive beliefs Much of what we do, say, feel and act is based on our beliefs, and in particular in our beliefs about people. Problems occur when we hold different beliefs about ourselves and about other people. If you have assertive beliefs, then assertive behavior will follow. If you do not hold assertive beliefs, then you willContinue reading “Building assertive beliefs”
Comparing Behaviors
Here is a summary of key differences between assertive behavior, aggressive behavior and submissive behavior. Note how the benefits and costs of aggressive and submissive behavior are sometimes the same and sometimes opposite. One the traps of aggressive/submissive behavior is to believe that this is all there is, and you have to be one or the other. Assertive behaviorContinue reading “Comparing Behaviors”
Submissive Behavior
Description submissive (or passive) behavior means shying away from saying what you really mean and not seeking to achieve your needs, particularly when someone else has conflicting needs. A submissive person is a shrinking violet, avoiding upsetting others either because they fear them or they fear to hurt their feelings. When things go wrong, the submissiveContinue reading “Submissive Behavior”
Aggressive Behavior
Description Aggressive behavior means standing up for your rights, but in a way that violates the rights of other people. It means saying what you believe in a way that assumes that it the only truth, and that any contradictory statement is wrong. Aggressive people often uses anger, aggressive body language other threatening behavior to bully, subjugate andContinue reading “Aggressive Behavior”
3L HEALING 